We all know that love is an important part of successful romantic relationships. But you might be surprised to learn that love also has powerful forecasting abilities. It’s true. Relationship research has shown that love is a powerful predictor of which couples break up and which stay together. In fact, one huge study of dating relationships in the US and other Western countries discovered three factors (out of sixteen) with a “large predictive effect” on the ultimate outcome of dating relationships. Those three factors were love, commitment, and positive illusions. (For more on all three, see this article.)
Before I say any more, why don’t you go ahead and Take The Love Test. Once you’re done, come on back and keep reading. (It’s better if you don’t know what to expect–your responses will be more natural that way.) Continue reading
Are you dating someone and finding yourself wondering, “Where is this going?”
Did you know that if you measure your commitment to the relationship today, you can make an educated guess about whether you guys will stay together?
It’s not magic. It’s not a gimmick. It’s just statistics. Give it a try: Take the quiz!
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I’m on the radio–in Taiwan!
Last week, radio show host Natalie Tso from Radio Taiwan (English version) contacted me about my work as a Love Life Coach in Shenzhen. We had a nice chat about love and relationships on the mainland, and about Chinese Valentine’s Day, which was celebrated this year on August 13 (during the traditional QiXi festival). The show is not long, maybe 10 minutes. Check it out!
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Last time, I talked about how to predict the future success of your relationship armed with nothing but your smartphone.
Today, I’ve turned the findings I discussed, like the link between certain text messaging habits and relationship satisfaction, into a quick online quiz. This quiz will give you some perspective on how your relationship is doing. Why not bring the science-talk to life, right?
If you’re in a relationship you can take the quiz. Go on, you know you want to know!
If you are not seeing anybody at the moment, consider sending the link along to a friend or colleague who is. I’ll update you later about the results!
Click here to take the quiz >>>
Note: This article of mine originally appeared on Science of Relationships.
Photo (cc) by Flickr user b garrett
The key to decoding your relationship’s future could be sitting in your pocket right now. It’s not your wallet, or those breath mints, or that crumpled lottery ticket. It’s your cell phone. Continue reading
As a blogger, you can get so dang busy blogging that you become a little self-absorbed. Why would you want to read anyone else’s stuff when your own is so great? Ok, maybe you’re more magnanimous than that, but for me, I find myself sliding toward my natural self-focused biases if left unchecked. (75% of us think we’re above average after all…)
To counter-act this issue, and to stay up to date on the world of relationships, I’ve decided to start searching the web every week to read and appreciate the great stuff other people are saying. Here are my picks of the week–the best stuff I’m reading about relationships. Continue reading